During our visit to the charming town of Modica, known for its rich culture and local industry, we had the pleasure of dining with Chef Salva and Ludavica our guide. As we savored the delightful flavors of Sicilian cuisine, our conversation flowed seamlessly through a variety of intriguing topics. Two particularly thought-provoking discussions stood out: the statues that represents Sicily's dark past and human treatment and the notable lack of extreme homelessness present in every city/town we have visited.

Our hosts asked us about the removal of statues and the perceived political influence on history as a whole.  In particular they asked about statues and historical figures spanning from the pre-revolutionary era, through the Civil War and Jim Crow period, to the Capitol riots. Their underlying question was profound: why do some Americans seem to avoid confronting the reality of the past no matter how dark or bad? Are they not concerned that ignoring history might lead to its repetition?
We found ourselves unqualified to fully address these complex questions but did our best to engage thoughtfully. For Italians, preserving and telling history accurately is crucial. Regarding the statues around the island which represent the dark past, there was a brief period when some wanted them removed. However, Sicilians insisted they remain, believing their children must be reminded of the sins of the past and be taught differently to prevent repeating such mistakes and to value the human connection.

On the topic of homelessness, we discussed how rare it is to see homeless Italians in Italy. Our hosts highlighted the importance of family, connection, and unwavering love in their culture. In Italian families, you never give up on each other, no matter the circumstances. This strong familial bond ensures that individuals are rarely left to fend for themselves.

The most powerful realization for me during this meal was the trust and vulnerability we shared around the table. We discussed topics that are often considered taboo back home, yet here, in the warmth of Sicilian hospitality, we listened and learned from each other. It was a testament to the table as a sacred space for gathering, talking, and truly listening.

Unlike countertops or bars where people sit side by side, tables—whether square, round, or rectangular—connect us by sight and by the shared experience of food. At the table, we are not just diners but participants in a rich tradition of human connection.

This experience in Modica reminded me of the power of open dialogue and the importance of preserving history while fostering strong familial and social bonds. As we continue our sabbatical, I am grateful for these moments of profound connection and the lessons we carry with us around every table we encounter.